Episode 51 - Are Some "Needs" Really "Shoulds" in Disguise?

In the course of a day, or a week, or a month, or even an hour, how often do you say or think the word “need?” Sentences or phrases like, “I need to take out the trash,” or “I really need to send that email!” can come at us, into our minds, and out of our mouths out of the blue, and seemingly on their own schedule. When we think about it, though, what does the word “need” really mean? Are the things that you say that you need really as urgent as all that? Also, when you say the word “need,” what else could be said around that containing phrase that can inform us of the nature of that urgency, and to what is really going on?

In this episode, we take apart the word, “need” to see what’s really going on “under the hood,” so to speak. How do we separate true “needs” from “wants” and “wouldn’t it be nice” and just personal preferences? When we say “need,” how often do we really mean “should,” and, if so, what might be generating our impulse to phrase a “should” as a “need”?  Are “should’s” really “could’s” in disguise? Can we reframe these impulses to “should” ourselves to emphasize our choices? Are there really, underneath our “shoulds” some options to be explored?  Might we invite some inquiry into what our needs really are asking of and from us? All this and more, in this episode of This Most Unbelievable LIfe!

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Related Episodes

If you’d like to explore this topic a little more with some previous episodes, please check out the following:

“Episode 10 - What If…” for a conversation on limiting beliefs.

“Episode 28: When Discomfort Calls us to Adjustment” where we talk about how, and when, to make adjustments to approach.

“Episode 36 - Being Enough” where we talk through how we might avoid the “cult of perfectionism.”

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